By Janie Crouch
I love when authors I follow put their heads together and come up with an awesome collaboration. When it is Janie Crouch, writing for Susan Stoker’s Special Forces: Operation Alpha series, I am in awe.
Janie Crouch, like Susan Stoker, writes about the men and women who dedicate their lives to serving their country. And while some would scoff and say that the genre these two wonderful ladies write is cliché and caters only to readers who live and breathe military, alpha men (and women) romances, I would beg to disagree.
These two ladies—if you, dear reader, take a chance and read their creations (and I beg you, please do), you would see that they have one thing in common, and that is showing us, behind the written words, how to become better persons in a world filled with angst.
They teach us how to stand up to, and for, those who can’t. They teach us how to fight against those who refuse to believe that we are important.
Read between the lines of their stories, and you will realize that they are, through characters both flawed and solid, the ammunition we might just be looking for, to know that no matter what we are facing, we are strong. That we can face everything life throws at us, that we just must believe.
A case in point is Storm, another slam-dunk to Janie Crouch’s Linear Tactical series. Take the lessons behind the words to heart, for yourself, or someone else you know who may need them.
Storm is about domestic abuse and one woman’s journey out of her abuser’s hold. It is about finding the courage to fight for survival. It is about learning to accept change in order to survive. It is finding the strength to believe in oneself and standing up for what is right. To live.
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence’s Vision (NCADV) defines domestic violence as the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse.
The NCADV explains that the frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically; however, the one constant component of domestic violence is one partner’s consistent efforts to maintain power and control over the other.
The NCADV further says that domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality.
“Domestic violence is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior that is only a fraction of a systematic pattern of dominance and control. Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and in severe cases, even death. The devastating physical, emotional, and psychological consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime.”
~~ National Coalition Against Domestic Violence’s Vision
A recent study conducted by Amalesh Sharma and Sourav Bikash Borah on the impact of Covid-19 on domestic violence, published in the National Library of Medicine’s National Center for Biotechnology Information, cites that although countries across the world are battling Covid-19 by enacting measures to reduce the speed of transmission, multiple reports suggest that “such measures are increasing the incidence of domestic violence and not only in number but also in severity.”
“We find that layoffs, loss of income, extended domestic stays, and exposure to habits due to stay-at-home orders are driving up the incidence of domestic violence. Moreover, these domestic violence increases are driving economic and social crises due to the form and severity of the violence, the burden placed on government, a crisis of resources, and decreases in the productivity of workforces,” the study said.
The study concludes that domestic violence increase resulting from Covid-19 is an indirect driver of economic and social crises.
Sharma is an Assistant Professor of Marketing at the Mays Business School at Texas A&M University, while Borah is a scholar who has written a vast majority of topics for the Indian Institute of Management in Ahmedabad.
Regardless of whatever situation a victim of domestic abuse finds themselves in—be it the pandemic or other circumstances, there are, all over the world, ways to find help. Local self-help groups, toll-free hotlines, self-help books, online resources abound, including, of course, medical, spiritual, and psychiatric sources.
The best help for domestic abuse victims? In my personal opinion, we—their families, friends, colleagues—are the best people that they can run to, for as long as we understand that violence of any kind is, and should never, be acceptable, no matter what the circumstance may be. Especially now, during the pandemic.
It is for us to help empower and protect the victims of domestic violence, and lead them to the path of healing and recovery.
Learning how to defend oneself.
“It takes time to change the way we see ourselves. It takes time and conscious effort to undo years of conditioning. And that’s what has happened to you. Conditioning.”
~~Janie Crouch, Storm
In Storm, former Special Forces soldier turned rancher Noah Dempsey takes on the task of teaching Marilyn Ellis, a victim of domestic abuse, how to defend herself. He teaches her various techniques in self-defense, as well as how to get out of situations where she may find herself in the crosshairs of her abuser. With his help, Marilyn was able to take back the self-esteem that was stripped from her, allowing her to find herself worthy in all that matters, once more.
Merriam Webster Dictionary defines defense as “the capability of resisting an attack” or something used to protect yourself both physically and emotionally. Self-defense, however, is not about learning how to beat up your abuser, but rather how to become more cognizant of your environment and learn important skills that will allow you to protect yourself physically and mentally.
In most places, though, self-defense is still a foreign concept, especially in places where customs are dictated by a patriarchal society. Most often, the concept of self-defense is still met with skepticism and resistance for reasons such as:
- Lack of knowledge and understanding on the benefits of knowing how to defend oneself.
- Concern over legal issues and jail time in defending themselves.
- The feeling of weakness, helplessness, and incapability of protecting themselves from what they perceive is a bigger threat.
- The Guilt of defending themselves against their abuser, most often someone they love.
- Believing they deserve the abuse.
- Not wanting to use violence to fight violence.
Regardless, self-defense can decrease the risk of assault, especially in cases of rape. Victims who are educated, empowered, and aware of potential danger are more likely to prevent an attack or escape one.
For those who lack the understanding that they are victims of domestic violence, it is up to us to empower them into seeking the right path, and realizing that they, too, are worthy of living a life free from abuse.
“Progress isn’t always linear.” She didn’t realize she’d said the words out loud until he responded. “It’s jagged. One step forward, two dozen steps back. But it’s still progress.”
~~Janie Crouch, Storm
For anonymous, confidential help available 24/7, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).